Twelve Steps Adapted for Survivors of Domestic Violence

The Twelve Steps for Survivors of
Domestic Violence

  1. We Admitted we were powerless over our partner's addiction to Power and Control known as Domestic Violence, that this disease has influenced our entire life and we realized that our lives had become unmanageable due to the terror, powerlessness and other patterns we've learned from the disease.

  2. We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to our own inner sanity, the sanity we would have had if we had not been affected by Domestic Violence.

  3. We turned our will and lives over to the care of God as we understand God, our non-violent, safe, nurturing careprovider.

  4. We made a fearless and moral inventory of ourselves and our Power and Control known as Domestic Violence Addicted perpetrator as we have known them, and all of our family secrets, both positive and negative.

  5. We admitted to God as we understand God, to ourselves and another human being the exact nature of our partner's Addiction to Power and Control known as Domestic Violence.

  6. We became ready to have God as we understand God, remove all of these scars, behavioral and thought patterns this disease has caused in our lives.

  7. Humbly asked God as we understand God, to remove our scars, behavioral and thought patterns.

  8. We made a list of persons who had abused us and whom we had harmed: ourselves, our families, friends and aquaintances since the Addiction to Power and Control known as Domestic Violence had entered our lives.

  9. We made amends to ourselves, our parents, and others, by letting them into our lives, to assist us, and openly discuss the patterns of Addiction to Power and Control known as Domestic Violence, wherever possible.

  10. We continued to take daily personal inventory in order to see how we act and react to Power and Control known as Domestic Violenceand the healing process, to see our growth and improvement.

  11. We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understand God our Real Caregiver, asking only for knowledge of God's will and the power to carry it out.

  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we carry the message to other Survivors of The Addiction to the Illusion of Power and Control known as Domestic Violence; and practice these principles in all our affairs.
Here are the steps we took which are suggested as a program of recovery.
These steps are adapted from AA andrelated recovery associations.
Copyright protected November 4 1999
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